A strong person isn't the one who doesn't cry. A strong person is one who is quiet and sheds tears for a moment and then picks up their sword and fights again.

Someone really special to me once said "There is strength in realizing that you have a problem and seeking help".

It's really difficult being there for a person, without you imposing your thoughts and opinions. Because reality is, we are very opinionated. Yes we open our doors to listen and be the support structure you need. But we always want to speak & deconstruct what you are going through - so it can be an easier pill to swallow. Which is absolutely unfair. That's why people end up, suckling a lemon and shutting up. It's painful to see the people we're close to going through hard times. Especially when we're not sure how to help them. But helping them doesn't have to be so hard. Sometimes it just means being there with them.

Witnessing someone in pain is challenging and can prompt a range of inner responses. We may want to "fix" the person, rescuing them from their difficulty. We may want to run away, feeling it's all too much for us. Being there for someone means putting in the time and work to show them that you care and that you're available for them. It is selflessness. Your Help Has To Be Unconditional And Without Any Judgment.You need to create a safe space for them to pour out all their worries, insecurities and concerns, so they know that it's not a burden. Take yourself out th situation - that is why alot of people seek help elsewhere, the lack of a personal attachment. Let them know that they can depend on you to hear them out. Being there is being consistent and offering genuine, reassuring encouragement.

It can be inconvenient and challenging, but it can be done. You will probably say the wrong thing sometimes, but the fact that you are there trying - it is the thought that counts at times. There are many ways to be there for someone when they need you. Sometimes you can take actual physical action, like taking them out to coffee or dinner.

Sometimes you just need to answer when they call and want to talk.But the one thing that any action you take needs to demonstrate is that you are genuine with your feelings.

There's alot of people in relationships that don't know how to deal with their partners, wavering mental strength or struggles. Not that they are not willing to be there and show support, it's just a lack of understanding. A lack of being able to put park their vehicle, and commando their partners. Without being intrusive, and insensitive. The key is, in order to make a relationship work, you really have to flow with a person as they change, and go through the emotions. Trust the process. Give them just enough space to gather themselves, but not too much to make them feel abandoned.

"Baby I am with you every step of the way" - A simple message goes a long way.

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