It is the last Monday of November, wow this year is going by fast but I get to spend a couple hours online with my friends on our weekly zoom call. I got homme from work and started getting ready as this is my night to really take my time and enjoy doing my makeup and transforming myself. I really do enjoy this time, I was all ready about 6:15 so I watched TV till it was tine to tart the zoom call.
I started the call just before 7pm and girls started to sign on, tonight we would have 15 of us, Nicole, Sherri, Mikaela, Bree, Danielle, Agnes, Emily, Jennifer t, Jennifer s, Katy, Lynn, Jann, Melissa, Trish and me. it was great to see so many and yes we took time to find out how everyone's Thanksgiving was, it really is bice to keep up with everyone. We also talked for a little while about just general stuff, it was really nice. It was almost 8pm when we got around to Jennifer's question of the night and it was a good one but somewhat political so I was a little worried and yes I did caution everyone to be respectful and polite as our group is very divers in all area's including politics' and religion. A lot of people just assume if you are in the LGBT community you are very liberal and I can
assure you that is not always the case after getting to know girls in our group. The question was how has what is going on in politic and what you see happening affected you or someone you know, yes a very loaded question. Now I will admit the girls who are more left seemed to be a little more willing to talk but it was a good discussion and it lasted over an hour.
Now what I have noticed is most of the girls have some things they are liberal on and some things they are conservative on which is good. Now I dd express what I thought and it was more general than how it has affected me or someone I know. Now again below is my feeling and beliefs and in no way is how others feel and if you want to skip over it that is fine as I will put it in red. I consider myself more independent then anything but I will say I do lean more right then left on issues, but there are things I am liberal on. I don't feel one party or candidate is 100% perfect on all things that are important to me so I go with the one who matches most of what I want and believe and I don't really look at what party they are in. I believe most people are good honest people although every group has bad people in it. Republican, Democrat, Police, black, white, religious, or not 95% of them are good people. That being said all groups have bad people in them and I will not judge one whole group based on a small section. That is my biggest issue with people, calling out a group of people in general. Are there bad police yes but the vast majority are honest good officers and instead of going after police in general we need to weed out the bad ones.
Now as for the question I really do feel the Transgender community is being used by both sides as a way to divide the country. Both side cherry pick small issues and make them seem like the whole story. I have said before when we go out for dinner we tend to get better service then people around us sometimes and I feel that is wrong, I want to be treated the same as other people, not better or worse, equal. We as a group have made a lot of progress over the years and now because of politicians on both sides I sometimes feel like we have a target on us and again this is both sides fault.
There is a lot going on right now as far as trans rights and I will admit I do not like schools or teachers getting involved and my reason is this. When I was in school many years ago my teachers kept their personal life out of the class. Most of my teachers I didn't know if they were married unless I noticed a wedding ring and they never talked about their life outside of class. The only one in the school who should be talking to kids about the gender is the school counselor as they have some training on it I hope. It is the same reason when people ask me about transgender I always clarify it with this is how I feel and what is right for me. I don't think I should be telling anyone else how they should feel or live their life. I also believe that the parents need to know what is happening with their kids. No school, or anyone should be counseling a child without the parents knowledge.
Now I will use myself and how I feel and who I am as an example.
Growing up I didn't understand this side of me and yes I had many hard times with it and it took me a long time to figure it out and maybe talking to someone might have helped but it also might have made it worse. After many years I have figured out who I am and how this side of me fits in my life. I am not unhappy with my body, yes I wish I had no facial hair but other than that I am fine with my body. I do not feel I am a woman but I do have a feminine side to my life that I need to express. For me it is the blending of the two sides that makes me happy and complete but it took me years to understand this and I was older when I could fully understand all the aspects of my life.
Now I look at how things are and think what would have happened if when I was young and didn't understand how I was feeling and who I was if I had someone at school telling me I was transgender and encouraging me to be Susan. I may have been convinced that I needed to transition, I have had girls in our group over the years tell me I was fooling myself and I really wanted to transition. Being full time is not right for me and having surgeries is really not right for me but early on when I was in school I might know have know that. Even for those who have transitioned later in life if you had had the chance at a younger age maybe it would have been good for you in some respects but the life you have lived up to know would not have been the same. If you have kids you would not have had them if you transitioned earlier in life, if you are lucky enough to be married to a supportive wife who accepts you again if you transitioned before you met her you most likely would not be married to her. Now I am not saying that young kids can't know for sure at a young age as some may but I do feel most should take more time and be a little older before they make a choice that will change their life forever and this should be done with a licensed professional and not someone who has no training in this area other then how they feel or their own personal views or lifestyle.
I am happy with my life and how it turned out and who I am and I really do feel if things were like they are now when I was in school I never would have become who I am now. This is not about politics or someone else's views or feeling or even about who I am and my views and feelings, this is about each and every individual person and their journey. We all need to just be accepting of each other and the way we live our life and not push our beliefs or demand others live or feel how we do. Treat me with respect and I will treat you the same way. I do not want or need you to like me or even support the way I live my life just accept my right to live it my way and I will accept your right not to like it and not force it on you.
We had a great conversation and it was almost 8:45 before girls started to sign off and by 9pm it was just Jan, Lynn and me left so we talked a few more minutes and I closed down the meeting for the night. now I am looking forward to Wednesday nights dinner and of course the weekend when I will get a little time as Susan.
Be who you are and don't let others tell you who to be or influence who you are. Thanks for reading my blog and sharing this part of my life with me.
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