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[New post] Sprinkle of nonchalance.

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Sprinkle of nonchalance.

Soye Soul

Dec 4

Planning is helpful. If you don't know what you want, you'll seldom get it. But, no matter how well you plan, you will fare better if you expect the unexpected. The unexpected, by nature, comes unseen, unthought, unenvisioned. All you can do is plan to go unplanned, prepare to be unprepared, make going with the flow part of your agenda, for the most successful among us envision, plan, and prepare, but cast all aside as needed, while those who are unable to go with the flow often suffer, if they survive.

David W. Jones

When something happens, something tragic, I wonder why we were not given the opportunity to see it before then. You know, like have a vision or a random dream. So we could avoid the location or the situation.

Othertimes, I don't want to know what'll happen in the future. I don't like surprises but I don't like knowing everything either.

Reading my devotional a couple of months back, the verse read:

"Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path."

Psalms‬ ‭119:105‬ ‭AMP‬‬

You might not be a believer of the Bible, and this is not a sermon, so hold on…

A lamp gives deemed and limited vision to whatever its lightening up. For people like me who need extra resources to see even in broad daylight, the lamp might even be useless but for regular humans (people who don't use glasses), we know lamps aren't exactly the best sources of light…but they do the job.

We most times want blinding lights that give us the opportunity to see streets away, but what we usually get (and truly need) is vision for just the next step.

But I can't help but ask myself: why would I chose to see just the next step, when I can get the opportunity to see states away?

I overthink everything, it could be important and it could also be the opposite. But once it's something that affects me (or not), my mind is going into overdrive. I want to know how everything could play out.

I question my sanity, beliefs, skills when things don't play out the way I play, but why do I do so? Because I don't give my life the opportunity to be flexible!

I've really wondered why I'm here, like what's my purpose on earth. Why am I on a floating ball? Why am I in this particular place, at this particular time? Do I really play an important role on earth or in anyone's lives?

These are questions (which I still don't have answers to) that have made me realize over the years, in conjunction with experiencing deep sadness, that we don't need to have a life-changing, world-shaking, destiny-altering purpose for us to be here.

Neither do we need to see 2 years into the future to live reasonable and fulfilling lives. In-fact, seeing way into the future could ruin the experience. It makes you paranoid, and you tend to live on the edge (not the adventurous type).

No, it does not prepare for what is to come. No, it doesn't make you plan better. Neither does it make tragedies less painful.

Sometimes, having a lamp is all we really need. We just need to figure out what tomorrow would be, not 20 years from now.

Sometimes all you need is a sprinkle of nonchalance in your plans, to keep you sane and hopeful.

This doesn't mean we shouldn't plan ahead - that'll be rather irresponsible, but sometimes allow things play out. Don't overthink, don't over-process, just go with the flow.

Share your thoughts with me in the comments or on social media. How do you believe we're to navigate this thing called life?

With all my love,
Soye.

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