I was on Facebook, and I came across this analogy that started something like:
You are holding a cup of coffee when someone walks by you and bumps your arm, making you spill your coffee everywhere. Why did you spill the coffee?
Many people look at the catalyst (the person bumping your arm) as the blame for the spillage, but the spilled coffee is caused by the person holding the coffee — you.
If we look at the above analogy, there wouldn't be a spill if there was no coffee in the cup. So for someone bumping into you to affect you, you need something in your cup.
Everything comes from within. We shouldn't blame others for our reaction to their actions. Whatever is within us, like the coffee in the cup, will come out when our inner world is changed by external forces.
Some people blow up in anger when external forces impact them. Other people retreat within themselves to understand the lesson they were supposed to learn from that external impact. Whatever the reaction, it is caused by whatever is already inside you.
Think of yourself as the cup. If you are filled with joy, gratitude or a smile might spill everywhere. But if you are filled with anger, hate or a grimace might spill out.
Look within and ask yourself: "What's in my cup?" If you don't like the content, it is up to you to change it so that what spills reflects the person you want to project out to the world.
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