"It takes but one positive thought when given a chance to survive and thrive to overpower an entire army of negative thoughts."- Robert H. Schuller
For a moment, I found myself recalling the memory of our former neighbor, a woman whose cheerful demeanor left a lasting impression on me. She epitomized resilience as a single mother, fiercely dedicated to securing her children's future through any means necessary. May her soul rest in peace, for she was truly a heroine in her own right.
During one of my visits to her while she was unwell, her perceptiveness cut through my facade of concern. She handed me a bunch of bananas from her bedside table, insisting that we share them. Initially hesitant, I declined, but she swiftly reminded me, "You don't visit a sick person with tears and reject their offer to share a meal; it only adds to their distress." Her straightforwardness was a quality I deeply admired; she never minced words, always advocating for addressing issues head-on. As she often said, "Correct the mistake immediately, like scolding a dog for misbehavior, and it won't repeat it tomorrow."
Reflecting on her wisdom, I couldn't help but draw parallels to a lesson from my psychology class on grieving. My lecturer emphasized the importance of genuine empathy over well-intentioned but potentially hurtful remarks. In my culture, phrases like "maida zviitirwe ani" (who did you want to experience this) are commonly used to encourage acceptance of hardship, yet they often ring hollow and insensitive. In such moments, silence can be more comforting than empty words.
While my thoughts initially gravitated towards grieving, I found myself delving deeper into the significance of visiting the sick. I wholeheartedly believe that both my neighbor's advice and my lecturer's teachings hold immense value in such situations. It's natural to feel the urge to express sorrow in the presence of an unwell loved one, but it's perhaps more meaningful to conceal those tears and offer a smile instead. Engaging in uplifting conversation and sharing a meal can uplift their spirits and foster a sense of hope.
Certainly, concern for their well-being is unavoidable, but it's crucial to impart a sense of optimism to the person in bed. When they witness a visitor or caregiver envisioning brighter days ahead, it ignites a belief in their own recovery. Consequently, they may approach their treatment regimen with renewed dedication, buoyed by the optimism that surrounds them.
Be optimistic about life
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