Smelly Socks and Garden Peas posted: " Yesterday (31 January 2023) marked four years since baby boy3 made an unexpected and far too early exit from my body. I'm not someone who dwells or wallows in the grief I feel for his loss. I acknowledge it, I'm honest about it with myself and with o" Smelly Socks and Garden Peas
Yesterday (31 January 2023) marked four years since baby boy3 made an unexpected and far too early exit from my body.
I'm not someone who dwells or wallows in the grief I feel for his loss. I acknowledge it, I'm honest about it with myself and with others. I don't shy away from talking about him with my closest friends or referring to him with even acquaintances. I don't and won't pretend he didn't happen. But I don't rub my own or anyone else's nose in our loss either.
Each year, I mark his loss and his due birthday (in June) with a longer or harder run than my regular routes offer. As I'm recovering still from flu in December, I didn't even attempt a half marathon this year. Instead I ran on Friday, from school drop off, up our local big hill. Just 11km all in all, but very slow (1h37min) and with 295m of ascent. It was hard work and honestly, I walked a lot.
The weather was pretty unpromising when I set off, with fog and cloud in the valley and up the slopes. As I reached the real climbs, it was dense and quite cold. But I didn't find the fog scary or disorienting, it was comforting somehow. That set me thinking that sometimes the fog of grief is like that too. It's somewhere we can be peaceful, we can see only what we can see, we aren't overwhelmed by all the other things off in the distance. We can take comfort as we take some time to just "be" in our grief. We can explore it, or not.
I know my grief, my loss. It's just a part of my life and of who I am, who our family is. It's another facet of me. It doesn't mean that the rest of me isn't there. The world still exists in the fog, but doesn't intrude.
The fog of grief is comfortable, and comforting. It feels good to be aware of it, without being overcome by it.
As I ran on Friday, I climbed the hill and as I got higher, I came out of the fog and clouds and to the summit. There, I could see the layer of clouds below, but also the lighter skies and the beautiful views in the distance. Grief's like that too. It's not all close and enveloping. The rest of the world and life is still out there and grief doesn't stop us seeing it's beauty. Maybe even in grief we are more sensitive and appreciative of the positives in the rest of our lives.
There, those are my thoughts for this year. All that remains is for me to say, as always and forever, we love you baby boy3, we miss you and we wish you could have stayed to become a present member of our family.
Ashish Nain posted: " KKR, a global investment firm, announced a strategic partnership with Amit Agarwal, a former senior executive of Thermo Fisher and Omega Engineering, and Andy Silvernail, KKR Executive Advisor and the former Chairman and CEO of IDEX Corporation, to a" hrnxt.com
KKR, a global investment firm, announced a strategic partnership with Amit Agarwal, a former senior executive of Thermo Fisher and Omega Engineering, and Andy Silvernail, KKR Executive Advisor and the former Chairman and CEO of IDEX Corporation, to acquire and build businesses in the Testing, Inspection, and Certification ("TIC") industry. KKR's Ascendant strategy is committing up to $250 million in funding for […]
David Pocklington posted: "The Marriage and Civil Partnership (Minimum Age) Act 2022 ('2022 Act') received Royal Assent on 28th April 2022, and its implications were examined in a post by Russell Sandberg and Kathy Griffiths. Advice was issued by the Faculty Office, and in August 2" Law & Religion UK
The Marriage and Civil Partnership (Minimum Age) Act 2022 ('2022 Act') received Royal Assent on 28th April 2022, and its implications were examined in apost by Russell Sandberg and Kathy Griffiths. Advice was issued by the Faculty Office, and in August 2022 the Government announced that it would be brought into effect on Monday 27 February 2023.
wkennar posted: " Write On, Sisters!: Voice, Courage, and Claiming Your Place at the Table by Brooke Warner is more than a writing book. It's also a look into the uneven playing field that women encounter in most careers and fields. It's a close-up look at the ways in" WendyKennar.com
Write On, Sisters!: Voice, Courage, and Claiming Your Place at the Table by Brooke Warner is more than a writing book. It's also a look into the uneven playing field that women encounter in most careers and fields. It's a close-up look at the ways in which women often hold themselves back, and not just when it comes to writing.
I'll be honest — the first half of the book has a lot of statistics and was rather slow reading for me. But the second half of the book has quite a few nuggets that were worthy of my sticky notes.
Here are a few:
"Writing is self-expression, and as such, when we write we give voice to what we think, what we care about, and who we are. When we read a book —or even a post —we take a walk inside the innermost recesses of the author's mind, welcomed into a place so private that the words we read on the page may be words the author has never uttered aloud. How powerful — and intimate — is that?"
"To put your voice out into the world is to both believe and demand that what you have to say matters. We are our best selves when we assert our independence and self-reliance, our strength and toughness. The very qualities our culture values least in women are the ones women need to succeed."
"… you don't need to heed warnings from the jaded that failure is imminent or inevitable. It is. The work is in getting back up on the horse, rising from the fall, and the way you handle the fall."
"Few events are more life-changing and soul-affirming than offering up your work in the form of a published book. The act of creating a story, honing your words into a message that matters to readers, or honoring your truth by recording your experience in memoir form is a way of telling the world, I am here. I have something to say. I have something to impart. I want to share with you a story, a message, a truth. You are passing feelings from one human heart to another."
