The brick walls are there for a reason. The brick walls are not there to keep us out. The brick walls are there to give us a chance to show how badly we want something. Because the brick walls are there to stop the people who don't want it badly enough. They're there to stop the other people."
― Randy Pausch, The Last Lecture
I remember my father. Some times feel if have to describe life so far would be - doer, broken, doer, broken, doer....sequence goes on and on. Am sure there has been moments of happiness and grace. Mostly it's those two - doer and broken. So spent lot of time in healing. Sometimes feel over did on that color. The spiritual. I remember reading on a article on self compassion that we should not forego pleasure completely. Abstain. I need to reclaim pleasure.
I went for a community prayer and remembered father and all elders on parents side. I never really had a meaningful engagement with that part of life. I was too much a doer and too broken. I leaned on father. I have been alone too long. I think we need to compartmentalize life. The work. The pleasure. The spiritual. I have these sense of mixing a palette. Our own color. Not one predominant. Definitely not rowdy saffron. Flaming orange , blue and green. Those are colors use for presentations.
So here are 8 practical tips for positive thinking from a ISKCON talk by Radheshyam Prabhu:
- We should give up unreasonable expectation in our life.
- Focus your attention on doing your work and leave everything on Karma.
- Success is to have done something well. "It is not the trophy won but it is the race run."
- Don't bother about what the world think about you.
- Tolerate behavior of others.
- Give up blame game.
- Desire should not be expressed.
- Positive mentality depends on will power.
I like the talk and listen to it often. I hope these are useful cues. I think will forego point 7 a bit and explore pleasure.
Here is my list of struggles from 18 to 28:
- 18 dropped out of Fergusson college. Drifted is the right word.
- 19 joined first job with Cipy Chemicals. I worked for a year.
- 20. Did graduation from Osmania university.
- 21 Attended classes Pune university for UPSC training program.
- 22 Attended Symbiosis to learn computer programming.
- 23, 24, 25 two attempts at civil services. Failed.
- 23,24, Enrolled for masters in economics Pune university. One paper remained.
- 26, 27 - entrepreneurship.
- 28 - joined a start up. Father passed away.
As you can see - doer, broken, doer, broken, doer, broken, doer.....
Message from my life - Do one thing and do it very well. May be am a late bloomer with some experience. Will my time come? at least I should come. What ever that is.
Sometimes feel share too much information on blog. Its easy fodder for haters and people. I learnt early from Osho in my twenties - What will happen if everybody knows everything about you? what can they do? nothing. So am sharing all struggles and many failures. Remember was always a doer, striver and trying to find a path since 17. Its been a long struggle. Very long one. I have only mentioned a decade. Its much more. Not all of it is self induced.
Now believe its not about one exam or one job. Its about finding your path. Its about struggle to study, work, live and find one's path. I wish you luck and courage in your path.
"So what exactly does it mean to be a late bloomer? Simply put, a late bloomer is a person who fulfills their potential later than expected; they often have talents that aren't visible to others initially... And they fulfill their potential frequently in novel and unexpected ways, surprising even those closest to them. They are not attempting to satisfy, with gritted teeth, the expectations of their parents or society, a false path that leads to burnout and brittleness, or even to depression and illness... Late bloomers are those who find their supreme destiny on their own schedule, in their own way."
― Rich Karlgaard, Late Bloomers: The Power of Patience in a World Obsessed with Early Achievement
Will I find my supreme destiny or swadharma as vedic texts say. I hope so and ready for next innings.
I will not give up pleasure.
Remember the brick walls are there to stop people who don't want it badly enough ......
( May be that's why greedy, hungry, get more...)
Till then doer, broken, doer, ....
Sincerely, Suresh
References:
Randy Pausch, The Last Lecture
8 practical tips for positive thinking ISKCON
Rich Karlgaard, Late Bloomers: The Power of Patience in a World Obsessed with Early Achievement
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