I Bought Something

wkennar

Nov 1

This picture was taken at the National Museum of American History during our summer trip to Washington, D.C .

I have some news to share.

But first, for readers who may not know, a little background.

When I first became ill in 2010, and diagnosed late in 2011, I was determined my autoimmune disease wouldn't greatly impact my life.

I didn't know it then, but that really wasn't my decision to make. My body was doing its own thing, which is how autoimmune diseases work. Your body attacks itself.

I retired from my twelve-year teaching career in 2013. It was a heartbreaking decision to make, but at the same time, I really didn't feel I had a choice. My body was breaking down, and I was finding it harder and harder to keep my head above water between teaching elementary school, parenting my young son (he was two when I became ill), and trying to maintain my other roles as wife, daughter, and friend.

Since that time, there have been ups and downs, or medically speaking, flares and periods of remission.

But now I'm in a new place. My leg is weaker than it has ever been. Daily intense pain, though my body currently shows no signs of active inflammation.

Which brings me to my news.

I ordered a wheelchair.

You may remember my blog post about my decision to rent a wheelchair for our summer trip to Washington, D.C. (If you missed it, you can read it here.)

Since then there have been other times when a wheelchair would have helped. Seeing Return of the Jedi in concert at the Hollywood Bowl. Taking a family walk. And there are other outings I have avoided, such as visiting The Huntington, simply because I didn't think my legs were strong enough.

But, I'm scared.

I don't know if I am just stuck in a really long, really bad flare that will eventually ease up. I don't know if better days are ahead once I can get past this rough patch.

Or, is this just the beginning? Am I headed to a reality that finds me increasingly dependent on a wheelchair and needing someone to push it, to push me.

No one knows.

I'm trying not to let the purchase of a wheelchair make me sad. I'm trying to remind myself how helpful it was in D.C. How having a wheelchair allowed our family to see and do as much as we did.

I'm trying to think of the wheelchair the same way Michelle Obama wrote about her dad's cane in her book The Light We Carry: Overcoming in Uncertain Times.

"As we saw it in my family, that cane symbolized nothing. It was just a tool, the same way my mother's spatula was a tool in the kitchen, or my grandfather's hammer got used any time he came over to fix a broken shelf or curtain rod. It was utilitarian, protective, something to lean on when needed."

I'm trying. But it's not easy.

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