Grieving for the losses of our, parents, it's, a never-ending, process for some…translated…
Many years ago, my aging parents were staying at the home I grew up in in the south. I'd worried over them every single day, it'd felt like a huge weight on my heart. Five years ago, my father passed away, my mother moved in with her eldest son, I thought, that I won't, feel, so weighty, anymore.
With the passing of the days, although she's well taken care of, and I'd, still worried, did she have her breakfast yet? Does she have anyone to hold conversations with? Or, is she staying upstairs by herself, only with the most basics of her needs, fulfilled?
the cycle of grief...by Kubler-Ross from online
Now, my mother's also in heaven, away from the physical ailments of her body now. I thought my heart was, finally, lighter, but it still, wasn't, for an entire, year; even from earlier, my father is still, on my mind, and I'd start tearing up from time to time. My friends told me, that it'd been five years until her parents died, did she finally, slow the crying down; another told, that it'd taken her, ten whole years to date; some even told, that this will last, forever.
So, nothing's taken away, it's just, a lighter weight that's been, switched.
This is on the grieving of the loss of one's own parents, and the sadness, the sorrows from the losses will always be there, but we will, eventually, heal, because losing a parent is something that's very high on the stress indicator, top three, I think, and, the grieving process is, continuing, and sometimes, you think you'd healed, but, when encountering something at random, you'd felt, sad again, because that, is how this process operates, it's ongoing, until, we're, over that, hurdle, and some of us, never get over that hurdle!
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