We often perceive 'expectation' as normal, and when others do not behave as we anticipate, it can lead to feelings of anger, disappointment, and blame. I've found myself falling into this pattern numerous times with close family and friends.
However, if we shift our mindset to embrace 'acceptance' as the norm, and begin to accept people for who they are, acknowledging that they are living according to their own beliefs and on their own soul's journey, we can consciously radiate positive acceptance towards them. This shields us from the negative energies that arise when we react with anger or hurt to other actions
It's crucial to realize that it's not others' actions that cause us pain, but rather the interpretations and thoughts we attach to their actions. By understanding this, we empower ourselves to safeguard our own energy.
We can start practicing this approach with minor disappointments, gradually strengthening our ability to apply it to more significant issues that deeply affect us. For instance, I once felt hurt when a friend didn't invite us over while we were in their area. My initial thoughts raced with assumptions like, "They don't care about us," or "They're so selfish." Instead, I could have shifted to accepting that everyone prioritizes differently. Just as I value spontaneous gatherings, not everyone may feel comfortable with them. Life circumstances can also change my preferences over time, and I would hope (oops! check don't expect!) for understanding and acceptance from my true friends.
This shift in perspective is subtle yet entirely achievable—it simply requires a change in mindset!
Can we remember to apply this perspective whenever we feel hurt or offended by someone's actions? I believe we can, and I'm committed to trying!
Om Shanti!
S
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